I want you to think of everyone that you have ever really loved. I mean everyone. Romantic relationships, family members, friends. Even pets, if you like. Everyone.
How did you show them that you loved them?
You probably showed them that you loved them, both in big and little gestures– gifts, sweet words and pet names, doing things for them, being protective, providing for them in ways they can’t provide from themselves, etc. This is the price of love and when we love someone we usually love to be able to do these special things for them.
Caring for our loved ones is how we nurture our relationships. It’s a privilege. This is how we show our beloveds and the world that they are special to us.
But for some reason, we find it hard to do these loving gestures for ourselves.
We claim that we love ourselves, but:
- We talk badly to ourselves.
- We refuse to do the things we need to do to make our lives run smoothly.
- We neglect ourselves.
- We allow other people to treat us shabbily.
- We give up on our hopes and dreams when they seem to difficult instead of seeking our help and support.
And more to the point, if someone treated someone that we loved the way we treated ourselves, we would probably tell our loved one to distance themselves from that harmful person.
All of us in the self-love challenge community have made a commitment to loving ourselves more and that means we have to
- stop neglecting ourselves
- stop putting everyone before us
- finally start tending to the important parts of our lives that no one can do for us
This is the basis of self-care.
And the great thing about it is, self-care feeds on itself. Like compound interest. The more you care for yourself, the more you feel loved and want to care for yourself.
So here’s my question for you: How do you take care of yourself? How do you nourish all the important components of your life?
In the comments below, I’d like to hear what your self-care plan is.