Why don’t you get a hobby!

Though we all have different levels of obligations, we each have some degree of free time to manage. Sometimes we let our free time slip through our fingers without really noticing. We spend too many hours watching TV or on social media. We hang out with uninteresting people out of sheer boredom. We engage in unhealthy activity just to fill up the time.

But if we are bit more purposeful and intentional with our time, we can get much more out of it.  In a lot of ways, time is like money. We spend so much of our limited resources on obligations and frivolous things, but we should also remember to save and invest a little for ourselves. Read More

The Nitty Grit(ty): How to Persevere

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Failure is not falling down, but refusing to get up— Chinese Proverb

What is Grit? No, not grits, silly. Grit.

Grit is the ability to persevere when things don’t seem to be going your way.  It’s being able to keep showing up in spite of difficulties while in pursuit of your goal.

Picture this. It’s 1974 in Zaire, central Africa.  The “Rumble in the Jungle” has been hyped and touted as the biggest match of the century and the whole world is watching. A young Muhammad Ali is backed against a rope and being pummeled by a bigger and stronger George Foreman, the reigning heavyweight champion. But after 8 rounds of intense boxing and countless punches to the body, Ali somehow ends up towering over a knocked out Foreman in defiant victory. Ali perseveres and wins. This is grit. Being able to endure in the face of what feels like insurmountable challenges and obstacles. Read More

Good Grief: 5 Ways To Feel Better After a Loved One Passes Away

Good Grief

My mom’s sudden and unexpected death hit me like a brick to the face. And being someone who helps people deal with grief and overwhelming painful emotions for a living did not make my grief any more bearable. I was distraught. I felt bewildered and betrayed.  And I felt all alone. How could this happen? How was I going to deal with all this grief?

After hanging up the phone with my equally distraught sister on that fateful Monday morning in July, so many thoughts ran through my mind ….
“No, this just can’t be possible, she’s much too young to die,”
“I never showed her just how much I loved her,”
“No! She won’t get to see me finish my PhD” Read More

Our Nests

Living Room
My Home

I think that everyone should have at least one nest. A nest is a place in which you can retreat from the world, nurture yourself, and replenish your soul. For me, that nest is definitely my home. I LOVE MY HOME! I really do. I love decorating it, I love tending to it, and I love to entertain in it. But most importantly, I love the way I feel when I’m there. When I am in my home, I feel like all is right with the world. It is truly my sanctuary.

I maintain the essence of my sanctuary by editing it and guarding it. In a world full of excess, I make conscious decisions about what belongs in my home and what doesn’t.  I only invite close friends to spend time in my home. I decorate my space with things that I love to look at and that make me smile. I surround myself with things that remind me of  beautiful experiences that I’ve had and that  prompt me to recognize and be appreciative of my abundance. Read More

Abundance

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A-bun-dance (noun)

(1) an extremely plentiful or oversufficient quantity or supply: an abundance of grain. (2). overflowing fullness: abundance of the heart. (3) affluence; wealth: the enjoyment of abundance. For me, the word abundance reminds me that fullness and satisfaction are always possible. Abundance means that there is more than enough to satisfy each of us. I live my life trying to remember that there is abundance all around me, even when things seem scarce. An abundance of love. An abundance of life. An abundance of good intentions. Just because you cant see it or always feel it, doesn’t mean it isn’t there. We simply have to identify what we need and seek it out.  The work I do in my practice is focused on helping people identify, create and enjoy the abundance in their own lives because the more abundance there is among all of us together, the more there is for each of us. In other words, the more abundance there is for everyone, the better off we will all be individually.