Inspiration is Everywhere

Inspiration is Everwhere

Hey Abundance Seeker,

I want to talk about inspiration today and I’m gonna share a quick story.

Many years ago I dated this guy named Chris. I was a recent college grad looking forward to what I hoped would be a long and rewarding career. I hoped to be promoted often, move up in the ranks until I was the Executive Director of a governmental agency or large non-profit. My dream was to be a highly educated, well-paid executive professional.  And when I met Chris, I was just starting out on that road.

Chris was about 8 years older than me and was in a very different place in his life.  He was  a young professional with 10 years in at an insurance company but he felt trapped, dejected, and demoralized. He had been promoted several times and made really good money,  yet it was not enough for him.

I was hopelessly optimistic. And my optimism was compounded by my lack of experience. While I thought he was in an ideal situation- young, six figures, job security- he had had enough.

Chris’s breaking point came when his favorite uncle was killed in a horrible car accident. He died relatively young and Chris lamented that the uncle never got to do any of the things he wanted to do with his life. Chris was really affected by that and decided that was all the wake up call he needed.

He made a decision to quit and strike it out on his own by starting his own business because he figured life was too short to spend in a job he hated even though it paid well.

I thought he was being emotional and was making an unwise rash decision based on his grief and I told him so.  But true to his word, Chris quit his job soon after that. We ended up breaking up. We tried to make it work, but in the end we just saw our lives going in different ways.

I don’t know what ended up happening with Chris, and I hope that his venture was  successful.  After having worked on the track that I was so zealous about then, I see how naive I truly was. And now of course, I have been where Chris was.

And I now know that Chris was absolutely right to go after his dream.

 

Life is too short to endure being miserable. The world is too big and filled with too many possibilities and opportunities to force yourself to do that.

Do you ever feel like you’re not living up to your full potential? Or like you took a wrong turn somewhere and can’t really figure out how you got on  your current track?

Maybe you even fought really hard to get where you are, but now that you’re actually here, it’s not exactly what you thought it’d be. So now you just feel trapped with no options.

I know this feeling well. This is what prompted me to change up my life and move back to my hometown. 

And perhaps you currently work a crappy job that doesn’t even begin to tap into your superpowers.

This is a rut. And it is deeply psychological.

If you are not careful, you may find yourself believing that your life will always be like this.

Say it with me:

Inspiration Leads to change

As you saw in Chris’s case, the first step to getting yourself out of a rut is to find inspiration.  And it doesn’t have to be something tragic like the death of a loved one. The good news is that inspiration is all around us. We just have to take the time to notice.

Be Inspired.

Here’s how to tap into all of the inspiration that surrounds you every day.

Be still and soak it all in

We get messages and signs all the time. Often though, we are too busy or overwhelmed to see or recognize them. Carve out small bits of time to be still and see what comes to you. Do this regularly and you’ll be surprised to see how clearly your soul speaks to you. Whether it is prayer, meditation, long walks, running. Make it a habit to allow yourself to get into a mind space that will allow you to be calm and see what comes to you.

Chase it

There are some situations that I know will always inspire me. Every single time Erykah Badu, Stevie Wonder, or Maze featuring Frankie Beverly come to my town, I drop everything and go. Because their shows inspire the hell out of me. There is something so inspiring about seeing people who are so great at what they do and truly enjoy it. You can see their joy exuding from them while in their element. And it gives me life!! It makes me want to get mine, too. I leave these shows feeling joyous, awed, and inspired.  Find and seek out people, places, art, etc that you know you will be able to gain inspiration from.

Create it

Sometimes inspiration comes from doing and creating. Do you have a hobby or skill that you practice regularly that allows you to use different parts of your brain? If you don’t, maybe you should. To create something means that you made something that did not exist. You used what you had around you to create something new. Creative action then, allows you to see things around you as tools and ingredients for your creation. So put yourself in a creative space and watch the inspiration flow!

If you need some help finding inspiration,  or if you need to figure out how you can get the most out of life, be sure to check out Jumpstart Your Life! 6 Week Program. It will definitely get you on track to tap into all the inspiration around you.

Five women and a Magical Pool: The Power of Retreat

I love a good retreat. No, I mean I REALLY LOVE retreats.

As a teenager, I was introduced to the concept of retreats when I participated in a   leadership program. And these were intense retreats led by corporate alumni like lawyers and business leaders whose  mission it was to foster leadership in urban teens. Retreat topics included male/female relationships, self-awareness, etc. They were brutal and beautiful at the same time, and I’m so grateful for those experiences now. These retreats were transformative experiences and helped shape my character.

And I’ve gone on other retreats since then. Retreats are a way for me to do important self work and allow me the luxury of focusing on my own self-development without distractions.

I’ve always wanted to lead  personal development retreats. And two years ago,  I facilitated my very first one. I rented a private villa on an all inclusive resort in the Dominican Republic and took 3 of my clients down with me for a week to heal, share, rest, relax and have some fun.

Enroute to retreat

There were many memorable moments. But I want to share one moment with you that I think was especially powerful and reminds me of the power of retreat.

On the day before everyone arrived, I did my best to prepare everything. I spoke with the resort staff the previous day and that morning to make sure the check in process was to go as smoothly as possible. On the day everyone was supposed to come, I reiterated my requests and was assured that everything would be fine.

The next day, my first two ladies checked in with no problems.

However, my third lady experienced a very difficult check in process in which everything that could go wrong did.

There was a language barrier with the staff of the resort. We were waiting outside the reception building, sure that we would see her as soon as the bus arrived. I wanted our faces to be the first she saw.

But somehow we missed her and she was waiting for us inside the office. Meanwhile, management was calling our villa in front of her to tell us of her arrival. And we of course, were not there to receive the calls. By the time we met up, she was quite upset and understandably so.  She had just gotten off a long international flight in a country she had never been to, and had experienced nothing but frustration.

retreat villa

While we apologized profusely for the confusion around her arrival, she was inconsolable and I felt horrible and looked for ways to try to make it up to her.

By the time we got back to the villa, she was still upset and not quite in the mood to chat or meet with the other ladies. Again, totally understandable.

We all kind of settled into our own rooms and prepared for the welcome dinner in a few hours.

retreat villa balcony

How Retreat Transform Us

After the welcome dinner, we all returned to the villa. I had wanted everyone to have plenty of time to settle in and informally get to know each other, so I did not have any formal activities scheduled until early the next morning.

I  changed into my bathing suit, took my Ipad and speakers out to the pool in the back yard and blasted some soul music.

One by one, the ladies came out to join me in the pool. And it was so much fun. We laughed and got to know each other all night. There were discussions about music, food, love, adventure. We shared our hopes with each other and named our fears. It was really magical.

The overall retreat was a success. I saw each woman bloom in her own way and it was honestly an honor to watch. Each woman had a breakthrough in her own right and left feeling better and more focused than she had when she arrived.

And it all started in that pool.

It was in the pool where we all let the stress of the day leave us and opened ourselves up to the promise of connection and self-growth. This event set the tone of the retreat.

This is the power of retreat. Allowing ourselves to withdraw from the day to day and tap into what’s important. Retreats allow us to slow down and be mindful of our thoughts and take control of our experiences.

I hope to see you at my next retreat.

In the meantime, be sure to check out available individual programs.