What Beyonce Taught Me About Rejection

This is her performing at Stevie Wonder's tribute earlier this year. I was screaming so loud and dancing so hard, I know my neighbors thought I was crazy!
Queen Bey herself performing at Stevie Wonder’s tribute earlier this year. I was screaming so loud and dancing so hard, I know my neighbors thought I was crazy!

Sooo…. Everyone who knows me knows how much I loves me some Beyonce. Obviously she’s one of the most beautiful women in the world, and can sing her head off.  But I think I love  her so much because she’s so inspiring. I mean her work ethic is more than out of this world. I mean who can secretly record an album, secretly produce a short film for EVERY song on said album, and with no promotion or marketing release said album overnight and  then have that album debut at #1 and sell almost a million copies in 3 days? Beyonce. That’s who.  And its been amazing to watch her career and personal life evolve and grow over the past 20 years. Read More

Happy Mother’s Day

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This is my favorite pic of my mom.

This is a short post. I just want to wish everyone a very happy Mother’s Day! I’m sending this message out to everyone, even those of us who are not mothers, because today is a chance for all of us to think about the wonderful impact that mothers have on our lives. Mothers are everywhere and we love them! Even the non human ones.

As most of you know, this is my first Mother’s Day after my mom passed last summer.  And it’s really hard. But I’ll get through it by focusing on how much her life has impacted mine and how appreciative I am that I’m here today because of her.  Also, my brother sent me the most adorable pics of my mother’s garden in her back yard. My mother’s garden was her pride and joy and its thriving even after she’s gone. Her influence is still visible and inspiring. What more could a daughter ask for? Read More

“The grass is greener” and other lies we tell ourselves

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Is the grass really greener on the other side?

Sometimes it seems as if everybody in the world, or at least those in our immediate circle, are doing so much better than us. These people seem to have fulfilling relationships, better jobs, well behaved attractive kids, more money, better looking bodies, etc. All you have to do is log into Facebook and be bombarded with everyone’s successes. And if not success, it certainly feels like everybody else is having so much more fun than we are. After viewing endless pics of new and/or seemingly wonderful relationships, posts about new jobs, and social events, it’s easy to log out feeling unhappy about your lot in life. Read More

It is what it is…. 3 Ways to learn Total Acceptance

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I have a question for you: At this very moment, how do you feel about yourself and your life?

I bet you can list a million and one things about your life that you wish were different. Like many people you may wish that you had more money, or that you were in a meaningful relationship, or that you had a better job. You might even be wishing for a complete life overhaul because the state of things is so far away from where you imagine they should be.

A constant feeling of dissatisfaction develops when we are always focused on how we want things to be different. And sometimes this dissatisfaction grows into pain, anguish, anxiety, depression, and constant anger that we can’t ever seem to shake. Wallowing in dissatisfaction robs us of so much of our life energy. In other words, we spend so much time focused on what we think is wrong and lacking, that we can’t appreciate or even see clearly the things that are present and right. And sometimes concentrating on dissatisfaction can make problems and challenges seem bigger than what they are. Read More

I HAVE THE POWERRRRRRR!!!- How to acknowledge and use your own personal power

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Does anybody else remember He-Man yelling at the top of his lungs that he had the POWERRRRR in every episode?

Or remember when this song was all over the airwaves?

Snap! – I’ve Got The Power from Sertaç Diler on Vimeo.

Well today I’d like to talk about how each of us could be a little more like He-Man and claim our personal power. But before we get started I’m going to tell you a few basic key things that I want you to know and remember:

  • You (yes you) possess a great deal of power.
  • Your power exists whether you acknowledge it or not.
  • You have the ability to harness and use your power.
  • You can use your power to create the type of life you imagine for yourself.
  • You can use your power to improve the overall quality of your life.
  • The way you use your power has an impact on others.

Well what exactly is power? Power is the ability to make things happen. Power is using your life energy to create things and experiences. Power is realizing your authority over your own life. Read More

Me Myself and I: How to be more Self-Aware

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What do you think other people see when they see you? Do they see the same thing you see when you look in the mirror?

  • Do you often find it hard to connect with other people especially in certain situations?
  • Do you feel like other people don’t really “get” you?
  • Or do you find yourself feeling like no one really knows the “real” you?

Well perhaps you, like all of us, can stand to become more self-aware. Self- Awareness is the process of knowing who we are in relation to other people. It’s helpful to be self aware because it gives us a framework to interpret and understand all the feedback we get from others.

Here are three ways you can increase your level of self-awareness:

1. Listen to what other people say about you Read More

Why don’t you get a hobby!

Though we all have different levels of obligations, we each have some degree of free time to manage. Sometimes we let our free time slip through our fingers without really noticing. We spend too many hours watching TV or on social media. We hang out with uninteresting people out of sheer boredom. We engage in unhealthy activity just to fill up the time.

But if we are bit more purposeful and intentional with our time, we can get much more out of it.  In a lot of ways, time is like money. We spend so much of our limited resources on obligations and frivolous things, but we should also remember to save and invest a little for ourselves. Read More

Abundance

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A-bun-dance (noun)

(1) an extremely plentiful or oversufficient quantity or supply: an abundance of grain. (2). overflowing fullness: abundance of the heart. (3) affluence; wealth: the enjoyment of abundance. For me, the word abundance reminds me that fullness and satisfaction are always possible. Abundance means that there is more than enough to satisfy each of us. I live my life trying to remember that there is abundance all around me, even when things seem scarce. An abundance of love. An abundance of life. An abundance of good intentions. Just because you cant see it or always feel it, doesn’t mean it isn’t there. We simply have to identify what we need and seek it out.  The work I do in my practice is focused on helping people identify, create and enjoy the abundance in their own lives because the more abundance there is among all of us together, the more there is for each of us. In other words, the more abundance there is for everyone, the better off we will all be individually.